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The Truth about Marriage & Divorce
This sermon is about marriage. It should be noted that all will NOT agree with the content of this sermon. I do ask that you read all of it before judging any of it. To the Pastors / Priests that share a different viewpoint, I will say this sermon is what was laid on my heart. I will also say that SalvationFirst has NEVER turned it's back on any member going through the Emotional Hell of a divorce. ~Pastor Mark
1 Corinthians 7:1-35 1Now for the matters you wrote about: It is good for a man not to marry.[a] 2But since there is so much immorality, each man should have his own wife, and each woman her own husband. 3The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. 4The wife's body does not belong to her alone but also to her husband. In the same way, the husband's body does not belong to him alone but also to his wife. 5Do not deprive each other except by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. 6I say this as a concession, not as a command. 7I wish that all men were as I am. But each man has his own gift from God; one has this gift, another has that. 8Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I am. 9But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion. 10To the married I give this command (not I, but the Lord): A wife must not separate from her husband. 11But if she does, she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband. And a husband must not divorce his wife. 12To the rest I say this (I, not the Lord): If any brother has a wife who is not a believer and she is willing to live with him, he must not divorce her. 13And if a woman has a husband who is not a believer and he is willing to live with her, she must not divorce him. 14For the unbelieving husband has been sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife has been sanctified through her believing husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy. **Note: This is why you must ask for forgiveness if you truly believe your marriage was not of Gods Laws, but rather the "Laws of the Land" (Legal Only). I am not saying divorce is ok. I am saying that divorce is the legal end to a legal marriage. If your spouse has back slidden in their faith, but you were married in Holy Matrimony, then you can not leave your spouse.
15But if the unbeliever leaves, let him do so. A believing man or woman is not bound in such circumstances; God has called us to live in peace. 16How do you know, wife, whether you will save your husband? Or, how do you know, husband, whether you will save your wife?
**Note:This scripture clarifies the reason you were not to leave your spouse. It is also permission to do so. The expression "You can lead a horse to water, but you can not make him drink" applies to this situation. ~ Pastor Mark
17Nevertheless, each one should retain the place in life that the Lord assigned to him and to which God has called him. This is the rule I lay down in all the churches. 18Was a man already circumcised when he was called? He should not become uncircumcised. Was a man uncircumcised when he was called? He should not be circumcised. 19Circumcision is nothing and un circumcision is nothing. Keeping God's commands is what counts. 20Each one should remain in the situation which he was in when God called him. 21Were you a slave when you were called? Don't let it trouble you—although if you can gain your freedom, do so. 22For he who was a slave when he was called by the Lord is the Lord's freedman; similarly, he who was a free man when he was called is Christ's slave. 23You were bought at a price; do not become slaves of men. 24Brothers, each man, as responsible to God, should remain in the situation God called him to.
**Note: Today's "Legal Marriages" allow for many things, divorce is one of them. So it should also be noted that they are not Holy Marriages. I am not saying that all Legal Marriages are NOT blessed by God, I am saying ALL Holy Marriages ARE blessed by God! I am not saying all marriages blessed by God are a cakewalk either! But they will last! The reason is BOTH husband and wife go to the Father for help TOGETHER. They both walk the same road together! They are ONE. The problems arise when they "divide". This is one of the reason we are warned about "a house divided against itself." ~Pastor Mark
25Now about virgins: I have no command from the Lord, but I give a judgment as one who by the Lord's mercy is trustworthy. 26Because of the present crisis, I think that it is good for you to remain as you are. 27Are you married? Do not seek a divorce. Are you unmarried? Do not look for a wife. 28But if you do marry, you have not sinned; and if a virgin marries, she has not sinned. But those who marry will face many troubles in this life, and I want to spare you this.29What I mean, brothers, is that the time is short. From now on those who have wives should live as if they had none; 30those who mourn, as if they did not; those who are happy, as if they were not; those who buy something, as if it were not theirs to keep; 31those who use the things of the world, as if not engrossed in them. For this world in its present form is passing away. 32I would like you to be free from concern. An unmarried man is concerned about the Lord's affairs—how he can please the Lord. 33But a married man is concerned about the affairs of this world—how he can please his wife— 34and his interests are divided. An unmarried woman or virgin is concerned about the Lord's affairs: Her aim is to be devoted to the Lord in both body and spirit. But a married woman is concerned about the affairs of this world—how she can please her husband. 35I am saying this for your own good, not to restrict you, but that you may live in a right way in undivided devotion to the Lord.
**Note: This is where The Word of God acknowledges that the married children of God have a commitment to each other also. The ideal marriage is devoted to God FIRST, then to each other. This devotion to each other is BLESSED in the eyes of God.
(1 Timothy 5:8 If anyone does not provide for his relatives, and especially for his immediate family, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever)
Verses 36 -38 is where the Word repeats the commitment to God and /or your spouse.
36If anyone thinks he is acting improperly toward the virgin he is engaged to, and if she is getting along in years and he feels he ought to marry, he should do as he wants. He is not sinning. They should get married. 37But the man who has settled the matter in his own mind, who is under no compulsion but has control over his own will, and who has made up his mind not to marry the virgin—this man also does the right thing. 38So then, he who marries the virgin does right, but he who does not marry her does even better.[b] 39A woman is bound to her husband as long as he lives. But if her husband dies, she is free to marry anyone she wishes, but he must belong to the Lord.
**Note: Many people forget this is even in the Bible! Note that many times in the Bible, if you have not become a child of Gods, you are "DEAD". If you walk away from your Faith, you have died.
Note also: 1 Timothy 5:8 (If anyone does not provide for his relatives, and especially for his immediate family, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever ) What is important is that she "Finds a husband that belongs to the Lord!
We must also remember that the Bible has scripture in it to guide us through an emotionally healthy life. Six of the Ten Commandments are about our life style and how to treat each other. I think we should ask ourselves if marriage is the same to us as it is to God. Would God consider same sex marriage Holy? This is to say that He has BLESSED it. Our Father blesses the marriages of His Children. He CANNOT bless the marriage of people that are NOT His Children. If you think He can, then you do not understand the term "Blessed", or "Blessing". The Christian Marriage is a Living Blessing from Our Father. We go to Him and ask for guidance in the growth of Our Marriage. He is our Marriage Counselor. He is the strength that keeps temptations at bay.
40In my judgement, she is happier if she stays as she is—and I think that I too have the Spirit of God.
1 Corinthians 7:1 Or "It is good for a man not to have sexual relations with a woman."
1 Corinthians 7:38 Or 36 If anyone thinks he is not treating his daughter properly, and if she is getting along in years, and he feels she ought to marry, he should do as he wants. He is not sinning. He should let her get married. 37 But the man who has settled the matter in his own mind, who is under no compulsion but has control over his own will, and who has made up his mind to keep the virgin unmarried-this man also does the right thing. 38 So then, he who gives his virgin in marriage does right, but he who does not give her in marriage does even better. Please continue on, to read PART 2 of this message